Cause of Death: Renal Failure by way of Type 2 Diabetes.
My last well memory of him was practicing for the Debutante Ball in the 11th grade. Due to heart disease, his Dr gave him two options — he could continue with the Ball and take whatever comes or he could have a sextuple bypass to help prolong his life. Of course, we chose the latter. That was literally the last time I was able to walk, let alone dance, with my daddy. During recovery from surgery, my dad had a stroke that left him partially paralyzed, with a loss of verbal communication and in need of 24-hr care. I had my dad for 4 more years, but the effects shook our whole family.
When he passed in 2005, I suffered silently with depression. As I continued to fight through it, I decided I wanted to be a victor and not a victim to the diseases that plagued my family. I didn’t want his legacy to be that he lived and died as another black and unhealthy statistic. With his legacy, I wanted my community to know that they are not only worthy of a well life but that there are people that look just like us giving us the options to do it. We have a place in this space. Health and wellness are for the black and brown communities, too. So I often stand naked before the world, transparent in my own journey, so that no one feels alone.
18 years later, it still hurts. May is always a hard month for me. Some years are harder than others. Some DAYS are harder than others but I know he’s proud. When I see his picture in my office, I’m reminded that “my why” moves past all worries. And personally? My weight? A lifelong journey, but I stand before you all with a clean bill of health. His impact? I may not have been able to save his life, but I’ve been able to help many around the world through his spiritual guidance. Dance means SO much more to me — no matter what it looks like to you. It’s a physical ability that everyone doesn’t have. I dance. I run. I walk for those who can’t. Daddy, I AM because you were.
So here’s to you daddy…
Joy of Afterlife: Leaving an impact on your daughter that would change the world.
I love and miss you dearly 🥹❤️
Roy J Williams
06.29.39 - 05.18.05
You have established such a positive impact on the black community despite negative circumstances. I applaud your vulnerability and I truly do hope you know how powerful you are! Thank you for sharing your story with us . Much love and light to you 🩷🩷
Wow AD…Big hugs to you, I relate to this so much! Today is my daddy’s Angel Anniversary too. Baby of the family, and a true Daddy’s girl. I lost mine to a heart attack the week before my senior prom 5/18/96. May can be tough for me as well. My mom’s bday is also this month, and my heart would break for her a bit more than my own, having lost her soulmate in the same month. I pray that the Holy Spirit will sit in our hearts today, providing peace and comfort. Allowing the memories of our dads to give us some love and joy today. Be well Cousin, take care🫶🏽
Hey cuzzin, That was a beautiful tribute! Your father is watching over you and I know he's super proud of you!!!
GM cuzin, I know times are tough for you right now but you are not alone. We all support you. Thank you for being you, with a purpose 💗
What a beautiful tribute, and I am sure your dad is so proud of what you've done for your family and all of us in his honor!!!!
Sending love and prayers your way!!!